Need a little lesson on Relationship Repair 101? Are you asking “can the damage of cheating be undone?” It doesn’t matter if you were the person who cheated or the person who was cheated on, there are relationships that survive cheating.
No matter what you hear online, it’s not easy to beat or get past the pitfalls, but it is possible. Here are some quick facts to help you get past traps and repair some of the damage caused by traps.
1) Apologize. Whether it was you who cheated on you, you were cheated on, there is something in the relationship that needs to be forgiven. The simple act of asking for forgiveness will put your partner in a frame of mind to dole out forgiveness as long as you ask correctly. It also totally throws them off because it’s often not the tactic they expect.
two) Make up for. You don’t have to max out your credit cards to make amends, but there are little things you can do that will mean a lot to your spouse. You know, better than anyone, what those things are. You also know that some of the most effective citations that can be made cost absolutely no money.
3) Forgive your partner. There is little point in asking for forgiveness if you cannot offer some forgiveness of your own. No matter how bad it is, you have to be able to forgive what happened if you want to move on and save the relationship. You can undo the damage of cheating, but only if you are willing and able to forgive and be forgiven.
4) Have realistic expectations. This is another important part of the process. Your expectations must be realistic if you are going to save your relationship from the ashes of adultery. You can’t expect smooth sailing at every stage of the journey. The more realistic your expectations are, the better you can handle when things don’t go exactly as you expected or planned.
5) Take nothing for granted. Learn to appreciate the contributions your partner makes to the relationship instead of focusing on the negative and dishing out criticism. Praise will carry much more weight when it comes to favorable outcomes and criticism will carry more weight when it comes to pessimism for your relationship. Learn to be complementary whenever possible with your partner and see the difference you make every day.