So your relationship broke up … and it’s all because you cheated. Of all the problems a couple could face, one that involves cheating is probably the hardest to repair. As bad as things may seem right now, there are some solid techniques you can use to make your ex boyfriend or girlfriend want to see you again. Even better, there are also ways to rebuild your partner’s trust … one of the most important aspects of getting back together after cheating.
Accept responsibility
Whatever happens, your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend won’t want to date you again until you’ve accepted the responsibility of cheating on them. Denying it, pretending it didn’t happen, or trying to blame someone else (especially the other person) are all wrong approaches to fixing your relationship after you’ve been unfaithful. Your boyfriend or girlfriend probably broke up with you as soon as they found out what you did, but aren’t you admitting that you did it? There is no reason for them to trust you again.
Swallow your pride, swallow it, and let your ex know you were 100% wrong. Don’t make a single excuse to cheat, because it will only be hit in your face over and over again later in the reconciliation process. If you want your ex back after being unfaithful, you must accept full responsibility for what you did.
Make sure the hoax stops
This should almost go without saying, but I’ll say it anyway: make sure you don’t keep cheating on your ex. Although technically they could be apart at this point, getting back together requires commitment. End your adventure and leave the past behind. Once you do, you can move on trying to get your boyfriend or girlfriend back.
Offer a solid apology
Your ex wants to know that you feel sorry for what you did. Being unfaithful is one of the worst things you can do to someone and it hurts on very deep levels. Try to put yourself in your ex’s shoes and really feel their pain. Imagine how you would feel if your ex cheated on you, then let them know how sorry you are that you did. Let them know that you recognize that what you did was wrong and that never cheat again. Believe it or not right now, your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend still wants to hear those three little words. It will be essential to help you get back together with your ex later.
Give your ex some time
At this point in the process, you should take a step back and let your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend have some time to themselves. Giving them this space will help them in two important ways: First, it will give them time for the anger to drain. If you are always around, you will constantly be a punching bag for whatever anger and resentment your ex has towards you. Second, give your ex a chance to miss you. Although cheating is the worst case scenario, the good news is that your ex still loves you. He or she broke up with you in response to your infidelity, not because they were bored with you, didn’t get along, or simply wanted to date someone else. Because your ex-boyfriend still has feelings for you, it makes it easier for you to win them back. Let them have a little space and see how much they miss you while you’re out and about.
Learning how to get your ex back after being unfaithful is not something you want to practice, it is something you should know from the beginning. You only get one chance to get it right, before your ex looks for someone else. For this reason you need to be proactive in your approach. You cannot make mistakes and you cannot sit back and wait for the situation to resolve itself. If you really love your ex and want him to come back, you must work to win his heart again.
Repairing your relationship after being unfaithful takes time, patience, and all the right moves. You need the proper techniques and methods to get your ex to trust you again. With that trust will come commitment, and the future of your relationship depends on it. Finding out what works and what doesn’t should be something you leave to chance.