One of the hardest parts to crack is knowing what to do next. For those who aren’t ready to move on yet, getting back together is always an option. No matter how your girlfriend ended things, there is always a specific path of actions and behaviors that will lead you back to her. Knowing exactly what they are can be difficult, which is why so many men fail. But most useful of all? Understand what actions are totally wrong. The behaviors listed below will always drive your ex away from you. Take a good look at them and see what you might be guilty of:
Acting defeated or depressed – Pity tactics never work, especially for men. Although there may be some comfort in wallowing in your own misery, your ex girlfriend doesn’t want to see you like this. She makes you look weak and lame. She destroys her respect for you, and if you want your ex back, you’re going to need as much respect as you can get. Get up, she takes your break up like a man and stop acting like a dog that got kicked in the ribs. Everyone around you will see you better for it, including yourself.
asking forgiveness – If something you did caused the end of your relationship, chances are you’ve already apologized for it. As long as your apology was genuine, leave it at that. If you cheated on her, make sure she knows you’re sorry for what you did. And after that? Stop. Continually apologizing for what you’ve done is not the way to approach the breakup. Either your girl forgives you or not… that’s up to her to decide. No amount of pleading or pleading will make her change her mind about it, although she may take some pleasure in watching you drag yourself along. But then again, there goes your respect. Do not lose it.
promising change – Maybe you know where your relationship went wrong, or maybe the breakup came out of nowhere. Either way, promising change alone seems hopeless. When he finally gets back together with her ex, the two can discuss changes on both sides that will improve their relationship. But promising to change so she’ll come back to you is always a dumb move. Your words are hollow, and she knows it. And even if you believe it yourself, she understands that you cannot (and should not) change for another person. Your ex fell in love with you for who you are, not for what you could become. Trying to fit the mold of a relationship never works.
Call or contact your ex – After she dumps you, trying to hold on to the touch is one of the worst things you can do. Your ex can’t miss you if you’re still around. It’s best to disappear from sight and make her wonder how you’ve reacted to the end of her. After a few days of silence, she will almost certainly contact you. Whether it’s via email, phone, or even just sending you a quick text… ignore it. This will be difficult, because you will really want to talk to her. But you know what? Leaving her silent is one of the most important steps on the road to making her want you back. She gives you the quiet confidence of independence and also makes you wonder if you still need her. Even though she ended things, your ex still wants to be needed and loved. Take that away from her and she’ll start to question the decision to part ways.
reeking of despair – Without a doubt, this is the least attractive thing you could do. As casual attempts to get back together with your ex fail, you may want to resort to more drastic measures. Hang up the phone, stop walking past your house and don’t ask for those flowers. Turn off the radio and television. The ‘Say Anything’ reunion scene isn’t going to work. Acting out of desperation is a huge turnoff, and any action you take during this bad time will result in things your girlfriend probably won’t forget. Do you want to know why your ex does not accept you back? This is why. If you want any chance of fixing the breakup from her, put these thoughts out of your mind and occupy your time with friends, family, or doing something else.