One of the best ways to win your girlfriend back is also one of the hardest to do, which is why many men fail to do it effectively. This method is so difficult because it is based on the idea of letting her go in order to get her back. After a breakup, when emotions are running high and you’re desperate to get your girl back, one of the hardest things to do is let her go… completely. The tradeoff is that it increases your chances of getting her back, and she prepares you to move on if it comes to it.
What exactly does it mean to let her go and how do you do it effectively? To answer that question, let’s first discuss what letting go doesn’t mean. It doesn’t mean that she’s giving up on the relationship, or that you don’t care about your girlfriend anymore. Rather, letting her go means giving her the time and space away from you that allows her to miss you and realize what she had. It is part of human nature to want things only when we no longer have them. When she successfully manages her own emotions, accepts the break up, and lets her go, it shifts the power dynamic in her favor.
When you let go of your girlfriend after a breakup, you send all the right messages. It shows that you are strong, independent and confident, which are all attractive traits. It shows your girlfriend that even though you really want her in your life, you don’t need her in your life to be happy. She tells him, you may not want to be a part of my life right now, but if you don’t, then you’re missing out on something great because I refuse to sit around begging, pleading, apologizing, and being depressed. Life is too short for all that. I’ll be fine no matter what.
Do you see why this is so powerful? Until you’re gone, she can’t miss you. Even if you don’t see her, just texting or calling her means you’re close to her and she can’t miss you. After a breakup, you should do your best to avoid all contact for at least a couple of weeks. If she calls missing you, don’t drop everything and run to see her. Otherwise, you give her back all the power, and the next day she’s likely to feel like she made a mistake.
When he feels that you are moving on with your life and that he could lose you forever, then he will begin to make the effort to recover. If she doesn’t, chances are she’s really over you and decided you’re not the right man for her. If this is the case, then you have to accept it, but by letting her go in the first place, you have already prepared yourself for the worst.
Letting her go is extremely difficult. It is painful and you will feel like you are tearing your heart out. However, the reward in the future is usually to win back the love of your life.