A strong and healthy relationship between husband and wife is necessarily based on a foundation of trust and mutual respect. The fact is, most of us can’t be with our spouses all day every day, nor would we want to. Each of us needs to be able to live our own independent life, but at the same time we need to be in harmony with our partner.
Unfortunately, the foundation that is the foundation of trust in a relationship can be broken when there is a suspicion of infidelity on the part of one of the spouses. Once that suspicion seeps into the mind and heart of the husband or wife, it can be difficult to shake off the feeling or its influence on the health of the relationship.
You know that your spouse’s suspicions have turned really bad if they have actually verbalized your concern directly to you. This means that they have probably suspected that you are having an affair for many months or years, but now they are bringing it up.
If you want to know how to convince your spouse that you are not cheating, here is how to do it in 5 steps:
1. Set aside a special time to talk about this with your spouse:
Important issues to be discussed between a married couple deserve a special time and place. In some ways, the impact of blunt statements or serious conversations is very different when it is said just before running out the door or during breaks in television commercials, as opposed to when the effort is made to establish a special moment for discuss it. Set aside a special time and place where the two of you can focus on the conversation at hand.
2. Let him know your concerns about your spouse’s beliefs:
The best way to dispel a person’s false beliefs or suspicions is to raise the fact of these false beliefs directly in the dialogue, to “denounce” them. Talk directly to your spouse about the fact that you know that he or she believes you have not been faithful.
3. Honestly address any particular concerns or suspicions your spouse has:
Then ask your husband or wife to explain the reasons why they think you have not been faithful. Be prepared for them to have good reasons. Unless he or she is the jealous type (which is a problem in and of itself), they may have some pretty good points. For example, if you spend an excessive amount of time with a co-worker or other person outside of marriage, this could be a legitimate cause for suspicion.
Just listen to your spouse as he talks and avoid getting defensive. Then when they’re done, calmly address each of your statements.
4. Look your spouse in the eye and assure him that you love him:
The eyes are the windows to the soul. Look directly into your spouse’s eyes and assure them that they have been faithful to you. Let them know how important your relationship is and how you would never do anything to harm it.
5. Take the path to bring out the love that still exists between you:
Finally, promise each other that you will find ways to grow your relationship so that you feel close to each other again.
Follow these 5 steps to convince your spouse that you are not cheating.