Hello. My girlfriend broke up with me for about 1.5 years. I was so happy with this girl, but in the end, she broke up with me because she thought we were too different. Just because she was Asian and I was Hispanic. I was willing to spend the rest of my life with this girl, but she wasn’t.
She came by one day and I admitted that I was looking to “get lucky” with her. Instead, the luckiest thing might have happened. As I was going through the motions with her, she pulled away from me and said, “I’m sorry, I can’t do this to you anymore. I don’t want to hurt you.” We were apart for a year. I was studying at university and she was in year 12 in high school. Even so, he saw her less and less.
I desperately tried to get it back. I remember putting a photo of her and I on my desk as the background. She gave me hope. I gave him two weeks to calm down and during that time I bought a scrapbook and filled it with photos and stories of the happy times we’d had. I realize now that he seemed desperate and really killed my chances of getting back together with her.
That was in February of 2009. It is now September of 2010. As I write this, I am also talking to my beautiful girlfriend… yes, the one who was my ex, all thanks to this guy. I’ve been meaning to write this for a while, just to get it all out and hopefully inspire people to never give up on love.
I was on Facebook, just killing time. I had just finished a college assignment and my mind drifted to my ex. I hated going on his profile because it was usually full of pictures of guys he was dating. I preferred to look at the photos we took back then. The one I had as my desktop background was my favorite. The sunlight was behind us. Everything seemed correct.
My classmates did what they could to make me forget her. They thought she was an idiot for leaving me. They didn’t know her like I did. She was beautiful and a true family woman, the kind of woman I would love to make my wife in the not too distant future.
I went from being a scholarship student in school to the bottom of the class in college, just because I couldn’t stop thinking about her. In fact, we had a class together at one point when she graduated from high school. Talk about awkward!
Our anniversary was June 16. It would have been our 2 year anniversary this past June. He was tired of thinking about her. There could be guys competing for her right now. I am the one she wants. She just had to show him that. I went online for advice, typing into Google, “I want my ex back even though it’s been a year.” Stupidly long, I know, but there was quite a bit of information.
My solution
There was so much garbage online. People who claimed to be experts and stuff. In the end, I narrowed it down to just this guy who lived in the US. He was in the military and traveled a lot, so he learned a lot about communication and people. The site of him was quite long; I scrolled down, scanning everything. He had videos, testimonials and things like that. It looked pretty good until I got to the bottom. $39 to download the tip from him. Now remember. I was in college. That was a lot of money for me. I also live in Australia and the conversion rate meant that I would pay almost $50. I had no job, only the Youth Subsidy (something like social security for students).
His videos seemed to make sense. There was one where he talked about the opening move you should use to persuade your ex to come back to you. I saw it and it really made sense. He knew what he was talking about.
There’s a little bit in the middle of the page where he describes exactly what’s in his eBook. There was one in particular that made me quite skeptical, the “Instant Reconnect Technique”. Apparently, this technique would allow me to “trick” my ex into thinking we were still together. What is this, mind control? Hypnosis? Bah.
I was arguing with myself for a good half hour, but in the end, on a whim, I used the money I was saving for my 21st birthday on this ebook. I’m so fucking glad I clicked the “Add to Cart” button.
There are no prizes for guessing which technique I immediately switched to as soon as the download link was sent to me. That Instant Reconnect Technique on page 43. I couldn’t stop the smile from slipping across my face as my eyes darted across the lines of text on the screen. The goal of the IR Technique was to treat your ex as if you were still dating him. That is.
That’s how I went down. I had the courage to call her for lunch on a Tuesday (that was the time we both had off from college). In the cafe where we were eating, we just chatted idly, and I said nonchalantly, “Baby Bear, use your napkin!” (That’s what I used to call her when we hung out. She looked at me curiously. I just looked at her and said, “What? After all, you’re my girlfriend.” Her eyes went wide and then I laughed, joking. Hehe” .
I got a call from her later that night, just before I started studying. Apparently, that statement triggered a lot of feelings that she had forgotten about since she broke up with me. I was getting happier and happier and after we hung up, I just arranged a new time to meet her. THANK YOU T DUB!
We are officially back on July 29, 2010. I still smile stupidly when I see that confirmation on his Facebook profile “In a relationship”, knowing it’s with me. It’s all been so fast but I feel like I’m floating happily among the clouds.
I emailed T Dub, thanking him for his advice in his ebook. If he hadn’t bought it back then, he wouldn’t be back with Kate now. You probably wouldn’t be reading this story right now either.
I can’t wait to see what he has planned for my 21st…